I have a confession, iv been having problems. I have been letting my ego rule my life. I missed some work, and I wasn’t present when I was there. I was angry and frustrated and every day was a struggle. I backslid, hard. I thought that these were problems I no longer had, that I was immune to them. Hubris got the better of me, and I lost two weeks of productivity and happiness. Not a massive loss in the grand scheme of things I know but it still bugs me that I let it sneak up on me. No one is perfect, but that does not mean that you shouldn’t strive for perfection.
I sat down after I had my head back on straight and said to myself, okay this happened how can I prevent it and how did I get out of it and now that I am out of it I bet there are lots of other people who have this same problem. Who don’t know how to fix it and who get stuck once they
Now for me, my backsliding was around my ego, I let it get out of hand and start to influence my thoughts and actions. But there are many ways to backslide, maybe you started a new workout, and you went out last night and were hungry and had low self-control, and you put down four big macs and a pint of ice cream. Well it sucks, and you’re going to feel horrible, now move on. Get your butt back up and fix it and keep pushing forward. Don’t let whatever happened to stop you, and it’s just a bump in the road. Now onto a more concrete way to solve your problem.
First off you need to sit down and have a real honest look at yourself. Free from judgment and ego and those rose-colored glasses that tell you, well I may have yelled at my wife, but it was justified!! She was doing x y and z. Sit down and have a real honest look at what is wrong. It might be you backslid a little or that you have some real unresolved issues in your life that are causing problems and they need to be solved. Either way figure out what is wrong, in my case my ego was running the show, and it was creating lots of issues. I was unhappy and angry and had no one to blame but myself (Of course my ego wanted to blame everyone, but myself and that was part of the problem). So as I was saying, sit down and acknowledge your actions and then say to yourself that I am not satisfied with how things are and lay out exactly where you want to be. If that is losing that 10 pounds, you gained over the holidays or going and improving your relationship with the wife you just yelled at (Hint: Flowers and chocolate do wonders).
Then commit, truly commit to changing whatever it is and go out with all of the desire in the world to do so. There is a fascinating book that I would highly recommend to anyone striving for something in their lives (Everyone should be) it is called Think and grow rich, and it documents the accounts of over 500 wealthy men who made their fortunes from nothing. It lays out 17 pieces to achieving whatever you genuinely desire I recommend you pick up a copy and read it if you are serious about making changes in your life. I’m not going to sugar coat it; it might be hard to change. It is going to hurt. There are going to be growing pains. You might lose friends and loved ones. But I promise you the rewards are worth every second of it. Even if you only get back to where you were, you will feel so much better about who you are, your relationships, life in general. Go out and change the world, to do that start by changing yourself.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey -Emmit.